Sit next to mom, or dad?
My family was invited to wedding the other day. It was a good friend of my ex-husband, but also a friend of mine so the entire family, kids and all, were all invited.
The week before our friend called and asked if the kids need to sit next to me, or with my ex? Since they are usually with me most of the time, I preferred they sit with their dad, so they could spend some time with him. I suggested that I don't need to sit at the next table, but I do need to sit within proximity to them, should they want to come and say hello.
Probably due to seating issues, it ended up that the host put one place by me and the rest by my ex. Which meant that my daughter had the uncomfortable decision of who to sit next to.
It was an interesting realization to me that my daughter felt that she had to "choose" between sitting next to her father and next to me.
I was enjoying the company at the table, so I didn't realize that it was such an issue, it wasn't for me. Maybe, I should be more sensitive to these things?
For the most part, I let them chose their father, since they live with me and spend little time with him, for me there is no choice and I don't let it bother me.
Are there other things that I might not realize cause my children stress when they have to "choose" between their father and me?
Are there unpleasant choices in other areas I have to make when dealing with my children and our relationships?
Food for thought.......
